An Evolving Life. When You Least Expect It.
When You Least Expect It
Someone once told me in French: c’est beaucoup mieux a trouver que de chercher. It’s much better to find than to search.
Many of us spend our lives searching. I’m not talking about looking for keys, cellphones, gloves or chapstick. I’m talking about the search for essentials like the perfect mate, the right career, or the ideal place to live. Those that not just suit our needs, but fulfill our desires.
Desire, a taboo yet titillating topic. One that encompasses all that is human. From what’s on the plate, in the closet, and in the driveway to who’s waiting in bed. However, one of the most elusive, the most difficult to find is a true friend.
A kindred spirit who will listen, understand, sympathize, and validate our thoughts and feelings. One who accepts us for who we are without judgement. A tall order. Humanly impossible or so it seems. Yet aren’t we always on the lookout?
On my creative journey, I’ve discovered that searching is a waste of time. In our technology-driven society, we’ve been brainwashed to believe that we can find anything if we spend lots of money or lots of time on the computer.
Not true when it comes to art; not true when it comes to love; and especially not true when it comes to friends. I first glimpsed my husband while looking for sunglasses in an airport gift shop. And my closest friends, my favorite people showed up where I show up. At drawing class, yoga, an art show, the library, the gym and while I’m walking my dog.
When I least expected it, those special people just appeared—much like the spirits that continue to pop up in my series of photographs and paintings called Looking After Us.
Here’s Adva, Hebrew for small wave or ripple; a sea creature and a Pisces much like me. After drawing and painting for about two years with an artist and very close friend who encouraged me to go beyond photography and pursue watercolor— Adva appeared one day while we were working together.
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Now she is on view with three other spiritual works in Who ART Thou? at Congregation Tiffereth Israel in Greenport. Click here for more details.
If the image or these words resonate with you, please share this post with a loved one or good friend--one who showed up a while ago or perhaps someone special who just recently appeared.
I have had the good fortune of knowing Meryl Spiegel for many years. We met during my BNB days when she was referred to me as a resource for a specific type of photography I was searching for. I also knew her as a writer. Over the years, I have been impressed with Meryl’s talent and creativity, and the honesty of her work. When Meryl began to sketch, paint, work with pastels, she truly overlaid one talent on top of another. The layers were intriguing. I reached out to Meryl recently because I thought that the Hummingbird audience would appreciate her work, and value her process. They say that timing is everything, and in this case it was, because Meryl was thinking about not only “showing” her work, but writing about it too. In our new series, An Evolving Life, Meryl will share the stages, challenges, and meaning of her art, and the journey that coincides with the pieces she highlights. Sandra Novick
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